Most people seem to think it’s so important to start a new year with resolutions. The connotation of resolution is that we didn’t quite get things right last year, so we need to do things better in this new year. While this may seem like a great idea because bigger and better is what we sometimes strive for, what if we just dropped the resolutions and vow to be better to ourselves, be positive, and look at our many blessings all around us? If your being true to yourself, the rest will surely fall into place.
Many people reflect on the past year and sometimes define their life by their accomplishments or non accomplishments in that year. It’s always a good thing to take note of your personal accomplishments and be proud of what you were able to achieve. Sit back and revel in it because you worked hard for it and you deserve to. It’s also a good idea to take notice of the things you wanted to achieve, but maybe didn’t quite yet achieve, and look at those things in a different perspective. Know that you are not your accomplishments and you are not what you may see as your failures. This was a hard lesson, but I’ve learned to look at the non accomplishments not as failures, but as something that just hasn’t happened yet and a learning experience.
If we live life every day in each moment taking the lessons we’ve learned in the past to do our very best, be kind and loving to ourselves, we would see that we’re living our life’s purpose fully and completely. You don’t need to hold yourself to an idea of what you think success looks like because of a resolution you’ve made. So maybe we just release ourselves from that pressure and promise ourselves to do our very best in each moment. Even through the lessons of the difficult moments, put it into proper perspective, everything in your life will begin to feel like a blessing. Be true to you and sit with gratitude that you are being the very best you can be in following your heart. Remember that law of attraction? Like attracts like, so gratitude and kindness for oneself brings more of the same. Then you’ll see nothing but blessings!
Some people say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. If you are finding that things are working smoothly in your life, like a well oiled machine, keep doing what you're doing. If it’s not broken, don’t fix it! Instead, wash, rinse and repeat. And at that point, find yourself sitting in a space of gratitude for the blessings you’ve been gifted. But if you are beginning to see negative patterns in your life, and you feel like your continuously hitting a brick wall, you may need to change the dance. Change things up a bit and look within for your own personal growth.
We all develop defense mechanisms to cope with challenges and painful feelings or times in our lives to simply push us through the most difficult of times. Sometimes we develop these mechanisms without even knowing it. And it’s those defense mechanisms that have helped us get through the most pain in the quickest time period, that we usually hang onto subconsciously. This is in its simplest form, muscle memory and a very natural thing to do. But there comes a point in time where these defense mechanisms no longer work in serving your highest good, so it’s time to change the dance.
Remember that with our life experiences, we are constantly changing throughout the course our lives so why would we expect these same defense mechanisms to always work? Most defense mechanisms were developed as a child and in some cases in a very negative manner. A child who was ignored, for example, may have thrown themselves into their schoolwork to gain some sort of recognition. But what that child really did was, they moved away from dealing with the negative feelings within. And dealing with deep inner feelings is the only way to truly release the pain and get past the need to be on the defensive to get what we want out of life in a healthy manner.
We have the ability to heal our pain by diffusing the patterns that no longer serve us. Sitting with our pain or discomfort and really feeling it is the only way to release it. Painful as it is, only then can can you look within to find your truth and use that truth to deal with a situation or feeling to change the outcome of what seems like the brick wall. You can then seek from within that which you do want by adjusting and modifying yourself and your actions so that you can get it.
So, essentially, if things are not currently working out in the manner in which you hoped for, change the dance. In this new upcoming year, try to put down your defenses and begin using your mind, heart and spirit to find your own sense of peacefulness and joy within. You may then find your inner power to put new processes in place to get exactly what you are looking for in life. Remember, your peace and happiness all starts and ends with you and your mind! This, my dear friends was my lesson, once again throughout the course of this year. Life is a work in progress always!
Here's to a new year and a new you!!
It’s the harsh realization, but unless your in an actual race, it’s not your job to race to the finish line. Life is short enough without all of society trying to quickly get through the next step before we’ve even finished the current step. It’s so very important in this life to enjoy everything before you with joy and gratitude while paying attention to the journey along the way. It’s in the journey of life that we receive our blessings, learn our lessons and grow as a person, but most are so busy taking that next step, that we tend to miss those important milestones that shape our lives.
For Type A personalities such as myself, this is such a hard lesson. By continuously focusing on doing what’s right and attaining the goal, most times you miss out on all of the beauty right in front of you. More importantly, in life there are lessons to be learned and if you are continuously looking for the finish line, those lessons get away from you. But rest assured, they will most certainly come back to bite you. They always do, so take the time to smell the roses and enjoy the journey, however difficult a journey it may be. Truly, it’s your journey to have and living in the now allows you to appreciate, recognize, process, learn and grow. Don’t we all deserve that much?
Talk to the mother who couldn’t wait for her baby to walk for the shear convenience of it, and then ask her how she feels after her baby no longer wants to be held. It’s only when that child is now walking that she realizes she missed reveling in the moment of that very last time her baby wanted to be held close to her. It’s a sad realization for her that she wanted to rush the process and she’ll never be able to get that moment back.
Remember to take the time in this moment to look at all of the beauty around you. In chaotic, confusing or even sad times in your life, just take the time to sit in the current moment looking at all of the blessings in your life. Easier said than done, yes, but remember that at the end of the day, tomorrow is not promised. All you have is today and this moment. And although things may seem sometimes less than ideal and you may even have to look harder than usual at times, your blessings are always there, right in front of you.
I share this with you because writing is how I heal me, and I just recently forgot the lesson of enjoying the journey yet again. Like many, I fall down often, but eventually I get back up again and if I can help one person through my own experience, I’m being called to do just that. So please also share this with anyone you feel could use this gentle reminder of the important things in life.
Love and light to you! Enjoy the truly important things and your many blessings during this holiday season!
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A story about the amazing Grace Jones and her healing journey of colon cancer and Reiki during her surgery. She was and will always be an inspiration to me!
While sitting a table with my sister at what I was told was a health fair in mid-September, we met a truly amazing woman. As it turned out, this was clearly not a health fair and Grace Jones was the only person to stop and talk with my sister and I that day. One might think that it was just a silly coincidence, but I’m not a believer in coincidence. In my heart, I know that we were meant to meet that day, and I’m so grateful we did.
Grace stopped to comment on how she loved my black shirt with purple butterflies on it...sharing with me that purple is her favorite color too. As she looked at the things on my table that I was selling, she asked some questions about Reiki and the crystal healing pouches I had created. This quickly transpired into what seemed like a conversation with an old friend, and she shared with me her story of having been diagnosed with colon cancer and that the surgery was scheduled for the end of the month. This is a story that Grace had decided not to even share with her family. I felt honored that she felt comfortable enough to shared her story with me. In talking with Grace, I quickly got a sense of her soul, listening to the incredible amount of positivity that came through to me in talking about her life while speaking with her.
Thinking back to the diagnosis of cancer that came to me in my life, I remember the vast array of emotions that flooded me daily, none of which were positive or even remotely healthy for me. But the woman standing before me exuded strength, positivity, love and such light. Simply by the way she spoke, and the passion for life in her voice, I might never have known what she was going through had she not told me. I could feel the brightest light in her soul. Even while speaking about her diagnosis, she knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that she was going to find the rainbow at the end of it all, and come out an even stronger and brighter Grace than before. What a truly amazing woman, and I feel blessed to now call her my friend.
A few days after meeting Grace, she called to talk with me about Medical Reiki and asked about all of the healing benefits of Reiki before, during and after surgery. Grace asked that I Reiki her during her surgery, and I felt honored to be a part of this beautiful woman’s healing journey. I immediately sent a post to all of my Certified Medical Reiki Master sisters to be with us on Graces surgery day in spirit with healing and thoughts of love and light. Due to the short notice, I would not be able to be physically in the operating room with her, but we planned a two hour Reiki session for during her surgery, and I provided a Reiki drip for the next few hours after her surgery so that she could hopefully be out of recovery quickly and find herself in her balloon filled hospital room resting and beginning to heal. Prior to her surgery, Grace arranged for herself, a room that would look and feel like a celebration was happening while she was there. This is how Grace lived her life and it shined through at every turn. Even after her surgery, she wanted to be able to see fun things of light and happiness surrounding her while healing in her hospital room.
Grace had given her daughter my phone number so that we could touch base after her surgery and I was so happy to hear all of the updates of her miraculous milestones after each day had passed. After a few days, Grace was emailing me herself with wonderful updates on how she felt, and completely back to her true and happy self. Three weeks later, Grace and I met up for brunch and boy did she look absolutely stunning. Again, with such light in her heart, I would have never guessed all she had been through because this beautiful woman was just glowing. And this to me speaks volumes of her person. I learned that day, that she, like most of us has a story with some less than wonderful things that she’s endured in her life. Sitting across from me was this amazing Grace, who through her own trials and tribulations in life, would not let any of that darkness penetrate into the light of her mind, body and soul. In fact, to celebrate life in the upcoming weeks, she had planned an amazing trip to London with her daughter. Such an amazing soul she is...truly an inspiration to me!
Grace, I thank you for allowing me to be a part of and share the story of your healing journey after your cancer diagnosis and surgery. It is my hope that everyone, including myself will realize life’s many blessings around us, and continue to see that we all have bumps in the road of life. It is truly how you handle those bumps that makes all the difference in our lives. From the little bit I’ve learned about Grace, I know that she continuously sees the light of the sunshine, even through the rain. This my dears, is truly living life and what life is all about. If we all learned to do this, the world would most certainly be a brighter place. Grace, to me, you are and will always be Amazing Grace, and I feel blessed to know you. xoxo
This is the healing time period recap post that I sent to all of my Certified Medical Reiki Master sisters who sent their love and light to everyone involved in Grace’s surgery:
Thanks for all of the thoughts sent our way while I did distant Reiki for a truly inspirational woman of positivity having had colon cancer surgery. I wanted to share a wonderful recap of miraculous healing. Post Surgery I received reports from her daughter that her surgery was a success. On day 3 my client emailed me while in the hospital of doing well and in great spirits. On day 4 my client hit all milestones and would be released the next day. She reports of doing great and to the surprise of all doctors on her healing progress. On day 6 my client reports no pain from surgery - only back pain from the awful hospital bed. On day 10 my client is well enough to go to the beach to heal in her happy place, and reports of getting stronger every day. On day 12 she met with her doctor to receive the news that the surgery revealed stage 2 colon cancer. They got it all out and it had not spread, so no radiation or chemotherapy needed. She reports that she’s healing very nicely and feeling great! Her body is functioning back to normal and her appetite is good! I feel truly blessed to receive such fabulous news as well as to have been able to support her in this journey of healing. Wanted to thank all of your for your thoughts of healing and support as well as deliver absolutely amazing news in healing.
Please share this story with anyone you know that it may help or could simply use a message of inspiration in their lives.
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