If it's no longer working for you, change the dance in this new year ahead

Some people say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.  If you are finding that things are working smoothly in your life, like a well oiled machine, keep doing what you're doing.  If it’s not broken, don’t fix it! Instead, wash, rinse and repeat. And at that point, find yourself sitting in a space of gratitude for the blessings you’ve been gifted.  But if you are beginning to see negative patterns in your life, and you feel like your continuously hitting a brick wall, you may need to change the dance. Change things up a bit and look within for your own personal growth.

We all develop defense mechanisms to cope with challenges and painful feelings or times in our lives to simply push us through the most difficult of times.  Sometimes we develop these mechanisms without even knowing it. And it’s those defense mechanisms that have helped us get through the most pain in the quickest time period, that we usually hang onto subconsciously.  This is in its simplest form, muscle memory and a very natural thing to do. But there comes a point in time where these defense mechanisms no longer work in serving your highest good, so it’s time to change the dance.

Remember that with our life experiences, we are constantly changing throughout the course our lives so why would we expect these same defense mechanisms to always work?  Most defense mechanisms were developed as a child and in some cases in a very negative manner. A child who was ignored, for example, may have thrown themselves into their schoolwork to gain some sort of recognition.  But what that child really did was, they moved away from dealing with the negative feelings within. And dealing with deep inner feelings is the only way to truly release the pain and get past the need to be on the defensive to get what we want out of life in a healthy manner.

We have the ability to heal our pain by diffusing the patterns that no longer serve us. Sitting with our pain or discomfort and really feeling it is the only way to release it.  Painful as it is, only then can can you look within to find your truth and use that truth to deal with a situation or feeling to change the outcome of what seems like the brick wall.  You can then seek from within that which you do want by adjusting and modifying yourself and your actions so that you can get it.

So, essentially, if things are not currently working out in the manner in which you hoped for, change the dance.  In this new upcoming year, try to put down your defenses and begin using your mind, heart and spirit to find your own sense of peacefulness and joy within. You may then find your inner power to put new processes in place to get exactly what you are looking for in life.  Remember, your peace and happiness all starts and ends with you and your mind! This, my dear friends was my lesson, once again throughout the course of this year. Life is a work in progress always!

Here's to a new year and a new you!!