Any time we receive hurtful words and emotional attacks by others, it imposes a sense of confusion within and our energy becomes deeply drained. Our first reaction is usually to take it personally, wondering what it was we did to create this person's anger. It’s during these times that it’s so very important to remember that this is not personal and we shouldn’t take it personally. Easier said than done, I know, but when this happens try to remember that this is a projection of their “stuff”.
Hurtful emotional outbursts, strong feelings and anguish are sometimes projected in our direction by a person who is deeply hurt and feeling like a victim. This is generally a way of protecting themselves or trying to make themselves feel better about a situation.
Hurtful behavior is not excusable on any level so you may want to protect yourself by putting a bit of distance between you and that person. Just take a moment to breathe and get grounded, search deep within and then remind yourself that you are not responsible for another’s person’s feelings. If you can detach yourself from the situation in this manner, you may be able find a bit of compassion in the fact that the behavior is not about you as much as it is about the person dealing with their pain. Centainly, everyone can empathize with internal struggle and pain, as we’ve all endured this at one point or another in our lives. That very compassion could diffuse the entire situation by simply getting to what is really bothering them. Understand that this person has just indirectly reached out to you expressing a need, looking for love and acceptance. Do you find yourself changing the dance you do and honoring that need? Or do you repeat old patterns that don’t serve either of you?
You cannot control other people’s emotions but you can control your own, especially in situations like these. Think about how many times you may have lashed out at someone, feeling hurt or misunderstood, in a desperate attempt for love and acceptance? At the end of the day we are all just looking to be loved, accepted and cared for. We all feel hurt and a bit broken at times. And these are the times that it’s important to look within and find compassion. We can first protect ourselves so that we can find love in our hearts for not only ourselves but for another who is in pain - even if it just appears that they are lashing out. You may just find that love coming back to you in ways that you never imagined. Follow me for a quick 5 minute grounding exercise or for a Bubble of White Light Protection Guided Meditation to keep yourself protected from feeling attacked energetically or otherwise.
If you’re needing help with this, reach out to me and I’d be happy to help you change that dance and find your inner peace and healing.
Love and light to you!!
If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.
― Dalai Lama
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